My One Rule for Quarantine

When Casiday was little I always told her she only had one rule — obey. As long as she obeyed us, she would be doing what she was expected to do. It simplified things a lot also. The one rule was the name no matter where she was. At church, obey the leaders. At school, obey the teachers. Visiting family, obey the adults. Basically, that was the only rule she had for most of her childhood. Obey. I've been thinking about that one rule idea a lot now that we're in week five of social ... [Read More]

10 Traits of Christ-Centered Friendships

Who's your best friend? Does one name immediately come to mind? Perhaps it's a few names, people who have walked with you through many seasons? For me, I think of a few groups of people, most of them don't even know each other. I've got those sweet high school friends, our connection forged through tight-rolled jeans and the big hair of the 80s. The college friends who knew me in my worst season of life and still love me anyway. The friends I've made through ministry and the various ... [Read More]

{Book Review} Reading People by Anne Bogel

I'm a personality test junkie. Seriously. All of them. I mean, ALL of them. Like even the "Which Disney Princess Are You?" kind on Buzz Feed. {Book Review} Reading People by Anne Bogel Since I have such a powerful affection for all things personality, I couldn't help but get Anne Bogel's new book, Reading People: How Seeing the World through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. If you don't know Anne, she is the genius behind Modern Mrs. Darcy and the host of the What ... [Read More]


The benefit of the doubt. It's one of those things we all want to receive ... but sometimes we are not as good as giving it to others. But if I've learned anything about relationships in my forty-six years, it's this—the gift of understanding is one of the most precious things we can give our friends. In fact, I'd go so far as to say, the gift of understanding is necessary for a friendship to last over the long haul. THE GIFT OF UNDERSTANDING I haven't always been great at this—in ... [Read More]


Scott started a new job last Sunday. And for the first time in my life, a new position at a new church didn't require an immediate move.  So, even though we no longer attend and serve at a church in our small town, we still live here. Which means, last night while we were eating out, we got to see several friends from our previous church. And yesterday while I was getting my hair cut and colored (hallelujah!), a sweet little girl from Calvary came into the same salon and we got to get our ... [Read More]

3 Reasons Gathering around a Table Matters

A few years ago I read what has become one of my favorite quotes about motherhood, The great motherhood friendships are the ones in which two women can admit how difficult mothering is quietly to each other, over cups of tea at a sticky table with spilled apple juice and littered with markers without tops. ~ Anna Quindlan It's true, right? Those friends who've seen the mess in our homes and our hearts, who know our fears and failures, who've laughed and cried with us — not just about ... [Read More]