Sometimes it’s hard …

being Mrs. Scott Underwood.

Don’t get me wrong, I adore my husband. Here is a tribute I have written about this man I am blessed to share my life with … Celebrating My Beloved. He wrote a song for me for our wedding, is a wonderful daddy to our little girl, and is truly my very best friend. Nonetheless …

Scott is that person that people describe this way …

  • Reliable
  • Caring
  • Fun
  • Good Listener
  • Trustworthy
  • Witty
  • Faithful
  • Compassionate
  • Wise

He IS all of those … and even more.

But sometimes, I get a little jealous. Those are the words I want people to use to describe me.

Instead, these are the ones I usually get …

  • Chatty
  • Talkative
  • Busy
  • Loud
  • Organized
  • Focused
  • Silly

And I’d gladly trade those for WISE.

For the last several years I’ve prayed for wisdom.

I’ve longed for wisdom. I’ve been reading a chapter of Proverbs every day for over 5 years. I’ve studied James three different times. I’ve pondered Solomon’s great contemplations in Ecclesiastes. My shelves are literally filled with books on godly wisdom.

And yet, continually I realize I am seriously lacking. It frustrates me. In fact, there are times when it just plain old ticks me off. I don’t understand why God hasn’t answered this desperate cry of my heart.

But, slowly, as with all things in my life it seems, I’m beginning to understand.

What I’ve really been pursuing knowledge. And there’s nothing wrong with knowledge.  Knowledge has allowed me to understand Scriptures and teach them to others.  Knowledge has given me the ability answer people’s questions about the Word.  Knowledge is a good thing.

It’s just not what I really wanted. Wisdom is much deeper than knowledge … wisdom is knowledge put into practice. Wisdom doesn’t just come from reading and consuming information.  Wisdom comes from experiences … from living out and applying the knowledge one has gained.

I have a new desire.  Instead of trying to learn what wisdom is … 

I’m choosing to do what I already know.
Like this:

Proverbs 21:23 ESV

Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.

The New Living Translation puts it this way:

If you keep your mouth shut, you will stay out of trouble.

I’m choosing to speak less and listen more.

Here’s another:

Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

I’m choosing to guard my heart … carefully choosing what I read and watch and how I spend my time.

And this one also is on my list:

Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

I’m choosing to measure my thoughts … and begin testing them first of all with the standard of truth.

As hard as it is sometimes being Mrs. Scott Underwood, I am thankful to have a husband who “spurs me on into good works” and who challenges me to live entirely devoted to the Lord. And, I am also thankful to have such a wonderful example of godly wisdom to learn from day in and day out.

So, what about you? Any areas of your life where are you choosing something different? How are you putting knowledge into practice?


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  1. Teri Lynne
    I can relate. I have a husband who is so smart and so funny and who people listen to when he speaks because he is really worth listening to.
    I want to be really worth listening to. Alas this causes me to ramble a bit too much. I as well have been praying for wisdom. What I really need is life from the one who gives life and through living the life I am given I will have wisdom. (sorry for the blog post length comment).

  2. Isn't it amazing how God pairs different personalities together? My husband is much more forgiving and gracious than I am. Oh, I try, especially to show more grace! It takes constant surrendor to self and guidance from the Holy Spirit. Praying for you, friend!

  3. My husband & I have been married for 26 years, and we have gone through some rough spots in our time. For myself, the most important thing I ever did was learn my husband's "love language" and keep reminding myself of it over and over. I've learned to be happy (most of the time!) with the way he shows his love to me, and even more important, I think, I've learned (and am still learning) to show love to him in his language—not my own!

  4. I love the new design…and I love this post! I believe you are wiser than you think! I also believe that God will honor your desire for more wisdom!

    I'm working on being more life giving with my words…

  5. Teri Lynn, I think you are VERY wise! I wish you lived in my town, so we could meet regularly. I learn a lot from you!!! 😀

  6. I know you already know this passage, but this came to mind-

    "My son, IF YOU ACCEPT my words and STORE UP my commands within you, TURNING YOUR EAR to wisdom and APPLYING YOUR HEART to understanding, and if you LOOK FOR IT as for silver and SEARCH for it as for hidden treasure,

    THEN you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom…" (Prov 2:1-6)

    You are doing this, my friend.

    I find myself frequently asking God to give wisdom – "You said you would give it, Lord! You said you give it generously to all without finding fault! I NEED IT NOW!"

    He is faithful to keep His promises! 🙂

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